It sounds like the ILYBNILWY and telling you she isn't attracted to you is stinging so you're cutting bait and running. Lurch, here is the deal...... We've all heard that. Everyone of the LBSs that posts here has heard that. Those that have successfully reconciled, and those that have not. We've all heard those things.
As you generally an impatient person? Are you impulsive? It feels like you are. Here's the deal, WAWs lose attraction AFTER they've lost respect. You have to regain her respect, then attraction will follow. For women attraction is not about physical looks. So working out, running 5ks won't hurt, but without rebuilding respect it won't fix things.
And this takes a LONG time. A lot longer than 90 days in most cases. Heck, I turned my sitch around in record time but it still took 90 days, and that is very a typical. You can't turn around in 3 months what took years to get into.
If you really want a D then don't tell her anything. Just talk to your lawyer and move it forward. If there is even a small part of you that wants to save things, then put in the time, energy and effort to give it a real chance. Earn your way out of this marriage. You don't mention anything about IC. Without it you likely won't deal with any unresolved feelings and emotions. Which means your next relationship is doomed to repeat this pattern. Do the work. Earn your way out. Be able to look your kids in the eyes in 10 years and say you did everything you could to stay with their mother.... And be able to say that honestly with integrity.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
