AnotherStander is spot on. Your husband wants to keep you as plan be. He wants you to be a backup in case plan A doesn’t work. You are NO ONES plan B. Trust me when I say that my husband is doing the same thing to me. I can be honest and say that I’ve even made the mistake of allowing myself to be plan B. I did it because I had hope that if I just gave in a little that he would snap out of his MLC. Guess what? He didn’t.
I’m still going through it with my husband because “currently” we still live under the same roof. But I have cut him clean off. No more playing second fiddle to whatever he decides to make a priority over me. I don’t give or accept any of his physical touches anymore. Why because all he’s doing his throwing me bread crumbs and temp checking me.
My husband will literally bomb me and less than an hour later try and touch me or kiss me. Sometimes I feel like this is a sick game to him. But as soon as he comes in to hug or kiss me, I block his advances like a heavy weight boxer. Lol! As a result, he normally pouts or throws a toddler size tantrum.
Keep focusing on you. Don’t put any stock into anything he says. As it stands right now, I wouldn’t believe anything that my husband said even if his tongue came notorized. Take care of yourself, try to eat even if it’s several small meals. I know this is hard and emotionally draining. I’m thinking of and praying for you. I’m also sending you lots of love.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
