I'm on the fence about body modification of any sort including tattoos and piercings or being extra toned / fit. I have a pierced ear and a couple of tattoos myself. Too much, and it to me cries out "insecure". I suppose it comes down to a person's sense of self-worth. Is it tied up in WHO they are as opposed to WHAT they are.
Their need for validation I suppose comes from how they look at themselves. I'd much rather be told - "hey - that's a nice thing you did thank you" rather than "your beer belly is looking extra lush tonight darling"
Others may have different views. It's perhaps a variation of the old "love languages" thing - what words or actions can be help your partner feel good about themselves, the giver of such things and the relationship between them.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
