I think ginger’s Boyfriend has it right. We like to hear things about how beautiful we are inside and out. How we are appreciated for both our looks and brains.
Now Dr was the leaver of her marriage. But I think for most women having your husband leave you when your “past your prime” is really hard. I’m pissed that I wasted my youth and beauty and reproductive years on my ex husband. And I think maybe all those cosmetic procedures are some sort of crises or way to cling on to youth. I’m not gonna judge her. Cause if I had the means, I don’t know if I would try cosmetic enhancements. It’s tempting. But overdone it looks fake and ugly. But it’s also a society issue.
J - I think you are very sensitive with Doctor and it’s nice to hear that you care about making her feel good and confident about herself. You are focused on building her up and that’s a really sweet and healthy way to approach a relationship.
I loved hearing KML and Dawn and Gingers comments though. I feel upset about aging. But I also wonder if by not drastically altering your looks a women can ensure that she will attract men that are more realistic about women their age. Men that connect more by a women’s character, and shared interests and sense of humor. Men that will love them even if they get sick or gain weight. For men, its synonymous to a girl that dates you cause of the car you drive. What happens if he loses his car? Like it’s a way to weed out narcissist or superficial people.
Now obviously, there has to be an element of physical attraction. But it’s sad that these cosmetic alternative skew the normal curve. And presents an unrealistic norm. So it also annoys me when women can do that.
