He was down and withdrawn and tired - still on the tail end of his sickness and his deadline is growing ever closer.
Don't forget he fired you as W. THOSE ARE HIS PROBLEMS, not yours!
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then listened and validated as he went on a 20 minute lecture about my faults as a human being.
Why in the world would you validate his continued emotional abuse of you? Next time stop him in his tracks, tell him you are not interested in being dressed down by him yet again and that if he wishes to continue then you will show him the door. Put an end to it!
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I was pretty wrung out and weepy afterwards.
= not detached
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He just kept going on and on and on about how he'd supported me in my work in the past, how he'd put up with all kinds of behaviour etc etc. He wasn't wrong in what he was saying and I validated as well as I could but I didn't understand why he was telling me, what he hoped to achieve, etc.
He's just trying to beat you down, it's what abusers do. Just because he hasn't physically struck you does not mean he's not treating you horribly. Abusers needs to belittle others to make them feel better about themselves, and to drag others down to their level of misery.
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Are you asking me to care for you?' and he said yes. I said 'what is it I can do for you?'
Quit trying to be his W, you're just pushing a big cake in front of him and telling him to help himself.
