New to this - need to talk

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I have been here a very, very long time and here's my opinion on what I see. The BD is actually when the clock begins to tick for MLC. What you witnessed may have been the lead up to the actual BD. She had been thinking about being free and young again for 304 years. Most of us saw some of the "replay" behaviors prior to the BD.

The therapist is correct in stating that she is avoid the inner struggle. They are trying to find things that will make them feel better, hence, the self medication w/whatever vice they use. It appears that your w has found quite a few vices along the way in trying to make herself feel better about herself.

Yes, they want to be free, free of responsibilities, free to do whatever they want and when they want to. They establish friendships w/people that are the exact opposite of the friends that they once had. They actually become the mirror image to the person you love, i.e., the exact opposite.

Until she works through her issues and finally look within, the "alive" feeling will be illusive and she will try many things to get and keep that feeling.

What you are hearing is very, very typical of the MLCer. As you educate yourself on depression and MLC, you will see that your wife's path is not very different from the others that we discuss here. You will see that she speaks the MLC lingo quite well. Some of her behaviors will be the same and yet different because each and every person is unique, i.e., personality, childhood issues and what, if any, coping skills that they have.

Believe none of what she says and only 50% of what she does. Remember...lip service is just that...but actions speak louder than words.

Keep the focus on you, your family and your assets. Seek the advice of a lawyer so that you are aware of what you may have to do down the road if she gets out of control on spending, etc.