I did look at her call log after our meeting. She talked with her younger sister for a long time but NEVER calls her parents or just her mom. That to me is strange.
That's actually pretty normal. WAS's look for enablers- people who will encourage them to leave the M and engage in affairs. IE- "tell them what they want to hear". As you can imagine most parents don't do that, they typically discourage that type of behavior. So it's very typical for WAS's to distance from their parents after BD.
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How much does anyone recommend me leveraging a deadline for my wife to file?
If you mean leverage it to "wake your wife up" or "snap her out of it", etc., then you have no leverage. There's no quick fix here. You only have one path to a possible reconciliation and it's not an easy one. You give her time and space and spend months or maybe even years working on yourself and making yourself "the spouse only a fool would leave".
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Not sure how long I could do this, I certainly could with my kids in mind, but if you don't want me then let's move forward
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Remember why you said you were here to begin with? Because you controlled and manipulated your W for years, and subjected her to emotional abuse? How is ^^^that^^^ any different? It's not, that is STILL you trying to control and manipulate. How about giving her some time and space instead and WORK ON YOU.
