I appreciate everyone's posts and will take them all into consideration.
Looking back my wife went through a lot of Replay actions but I never clued in.
The past 3-4 years,
4 Tattoos - Drink heavily on weekends while listening to music (therapist said she was avoiding the inner struggle) Obsessed with working out - still is Obsessed with looking young - still is Shopped excessively on beauty products / clothes When she would go out with friends she would flirt. Emotional affair
Although my BD was only 3 months ago, I feel like she was in Replay for a long time.
Right now, I feel like she is recognizing that all of those actions did not help her, except for the emotional affair. It was the first time she felt "alive" again.
It bothers me so much that she thinks the limerence she felt was "the answer", I am hoping she will slowly recognize that in inner demons are the issue, not the lack of Passion in her life.
My wife told me she is seeking a new life with Passion. She is obsessed with this concept I being free, finding a soulmate which apparently I was never and having Passion again in her life.
She told her sister - House / check, Husband / check, Job / check, kids / check. She has the uncontrollable desire just to blow the whole thing up.
