In my opinion, if this is true MLC, she will make a turn for the wild side and you will see it new friends, staying out late, new clothes, less attention for the kids, hair color/style change, tattoos, new toys , new diet or fads, and secretive..
The MLCer will spend uncontrollably, even if they were once responsible
Saying this it makes sense for you to keep a strict eye on the accounts, separate them if need be- Some LBS have lost everything, Please don't tell her you are seeking a L or figuring out finances- just do it for you and your kids
Make sure the kids are safe.. Im sorry I don't know their ages? The MLcer becomes a horrible parent --
If it is just excessive drinking issues.. She can attend AA and get better if she works hard- You can attend Alanon and get in person/phone directions in dealing with a problem drinker
As for now-take care of you and the kids you will know more later as hard as it is- don't push or pressure her into any talks or decisions- Just be kind and cordial and work on you
No matter which way this goes, you can be ok--if you choose to be
You will get a lot of suggestions and support here by all of us who have also traveled this road and successfully navigated ourselves into creating wonderful better lives-- hang in
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