TF I can only kinda say from the little I have seen so far, and with the backstory that I know of exW's bf, that how things are progressing seems very limerent and puppy love kinda stuff. The foundation doesn't seem to be good in the sense that both seem to be looking for a partnership to fill some holes in their lives. Hopefully once the limerence stage passes maybe they are able to actually work out the R and make it something stable - I dunno. There are so many examples of people still married and being unhappy.
There is also a lot of pressure at this point to make this R work. There is no way either of them are able to go back to the previous partners. If they were both coming from an abundance mindset, they would've approached the R differently or not be worried about finding the 'one'. But I feel it's coming from a deficit mindset. It's been like 3-4 months and not only did they introduce the kids very early on, but they are practically living together with switching homes depending on the schedules with the kids. It's a bit concerning but nothing I can do about it. It's just frustrating to see exW basically putting what she wants ahead of the kids and I feel that they are getting short changed. But it's her relationship with the kids and she needs to nurture and strengthen that.
For me it's all about the kids and keeping them in a rock solid place. They have that with me for sure. I am making extra sure that they are stable and that they get a lot of quality time with me and we are having fun, doing stuff together, and communicating. So far the kids seemed to be rolling with this situation, but let's see over time what happens.
I've heard a lot about the 'together living apart' situation. seems to be quite a common thing for folks in their later years.
