Yeah...I am not sure why she does. I have never asked her and it has never come up in conversation. I do know she hasn't spoke to her father in about 15 years or so. They had a big falling out over how he was spending his mom's (her Grandma's) money before she died and her Grandma asked her to intervene on her behalf with Lawyer's etc. I also get the impression that her dad wasn't overly involved in her life before this situation happened. She commented that once got boobs he didn't know what to do with her. Maybe some of it has to do with not getting or winning her dad's approval. Not sure. No abuse or anything like that just an absent father sort of speak.
She texted me this morning and I texted her back "Good Morning Beautiful" so I am trying to be more aware of what she needs. It is true that things do slowly start to reveal themselves so I am glad I am taking it slow.
Making an effort to me is not all about this stuff. Yes, most of it is overkill. For me making an effort can be as simple as getting your hair done, nails, etc. or applying body lotion, wearing a delicate smelling perfume, dressing appropriately, or being health conscience. It certainly does not have to be to this extreme.
