FS, This sounds difficult. It's a change, and you don't know what's around the corner. But maybe it's just minor bump you two have to figure out how to navigate as coparents, and it will ultimately lead towards (hopefully) better communication and who knows what else.
We all know how there's that famous (annoying) phrase people say, "Marriage takes work". Well, take out M, and let's just say "relationships". And I often wonder - no one ever says what that work looks like. What form does it take?
So maybe this is an example of the "work" you have to put in to create a changed dynamic. This awkward, bumpy part.
Originally Posted by FlySolo
Plus, I have questioned him before, he would go to the gym and be gone for 3-4 hours and when I'd say "How was the gym?", I'd get a huff, followed by a look, followed by an "YOU don't need to ask". That was a long time ago but I've learned to not question when the things he says don't add up.
Later, when you have reestablished a solid communication style, this might be something to revisit. If significant time has passed, perhaps enough has changed that this can result in a different response. It would be an interesting barometer.
