Well PJ this is where I think a lot of your confusion and trouble is coming into play and I am going to be brutally honest with you. Number one we encourage you never state a boundary more then once. Number two there has to be consequences if the boundary is broken and number three the boundary has to be realistic. You are not an option right now. She is not working on the relationship. You asked her to move out to get a reaction out of her and it backed fired. Now she can tell everyone you asked her to move out. So you can allow her not to cake eat but it is not a boundary.
If PA goes south she will find another om. Realizing she is half of the blame is most likely years away. After living with someone for 13 years who admits he is a control freak, pouts when he doesn’t get his own way and made her feel like she was walking around on eggshells and spent his free time golfing with his buddies is going to miss that after 3 months? When now she has her place to herself half the time and can do whatever she wants and answers to nobody. In the beginning she will enjoy her time away from the kids.
Oh yeah and btw she knows she can have you back with the snap of her fingers because you feel the need to vomit your feelings all over her because you need to talk. Do you think she gives a flying fuch about your feelings right now?
Sorry buddy that was harsh but I needed to paint the picture for you. I am trying to help.
