I recommend reading Living's story. There should be advise in there that may help you:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2824488&page=1


CSL is a newbie:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2846211
Read her thread and support each other


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712