Last night was amazing, the happiest she has been in 3 months. She actually initiated conversations, was playful with the kids, it was so nice to see.
Then she came into my room while I was sleeping and accused me of being on her phone. She is so paranoid about it.
Yeah, sorry to break it to you, but it's likely that she was so "happy" because she's back on the high of the affair and that's also why she got so paranoid about you checking her phone.
I wouldn't break into her phone again but you might want to check the phone records if you can. If she's got 80 texts a day to or from the same number you'll know she's back in her affair and can make your decisions accordingly. (Some would say don't snoop because it interferes with your ability to present a positive face, which is true, but I also think knowledge is power and it's good to know what you're up against.)
