From what I know it started in early December, right around the time I went through anxiety with myself. My anxiety lasted for only 2 weeks. I can remember my wife stating how desperate she was to have sex and if the medication was going to cause problems. I think her desperation was recognizing she was falling for this emotional affair person and that she didn't want to because of guilt.
The emotional affair was full out in middle of January. My wife was reading dark poetry about how she needs to choose her life, leave her current life and seek this new soulmate.
At the start of February I caught the emotional affair. I had both her and the alienator delete each others phone number. I ended it abruptly. My wife was very upset that I ended it, she told me that I played a POWER PARENTING card and that it should have been her to find closure.
My wife told the therapist how alive she felt during the affair.
My question is how much damage did I create by not letting the affair run its course. Why would I ever allow it to happen? I am her husband of 16 years, we had a very loving relationship, I was devastated. I read a letter she wrote him as closure, she said stuff that was ridiculous about our marriage and how she never fully loved me. She wrote about how in love she was with him. After 2 months of texting I couldn't believe the "limerence" that she fell into.
Anyways it has been almost 3 months, I feel like my wife has completely moved on from her emotion with the EA, but of course I am now dealing with the BD and fallout.
again the question is.
My question is how much damage did I create by not letting the affair run its course. Why would I ever allow it to happen?
