180 Counterproductive?

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Thank you Steve. I actually have been GAL. Spending time with friends, on hobbies, etc. I've always been pretty independent, actually, so I'm just kind of returning to that and then some (more social things). I have a lot of great friends and family, and I'm in the best shape I've been in in a decade now.

I see what you mean about the detachment. I haven't exactly been cold, but I could be a bit more fun, certainly.

My dilemma right now is how to handle this EA. She might not know it's an EA. My conception of it from what I can gather without snooping is that they have long talks/texting sessions and just talk about everything under the sun in a very carefree fun and flirty way. This is partly from just watching her. Shes glued to the phone and always looks happy. Shes basically done deeply/excitedly talking to me about her life and interests and instead does so with him. They also work out together.

From what I can tell, Sandi has different advice for WW vs WAW. I think this kind of started as a WAW and the EA turned a tinderbox into a fire. So her issues with me were rooted in truth, and I needed to change, but she's now using it as rocket fuel and getting her needs met from him.

Going to try to get my hands on DR as well for now.