Dealing with a WW and getting through divorce 6

[SoTorn]

Hi Neffer. Yes, I am not moving out for her. I am moving out for me. I am still dealing with her NPD issues. She is very hateful even when I an literally doing nothing. I stay cordial and upbeat around her, but she just cant be nornal or nice to save her life.

Moving out is for me because I need her out of my life as much as possible. I am doing great but I am still hurt with her and the way she treats me is not ok. So me moving out will remove her, for the most part, from my life.

Im just making an observation that me moving out would probably help her normalize and focus on parenting. As of now she still tries to control me.

For example, she knew I was waiting on her to give me my settlement money to move out. She agreed to pay me after taxes were filed.

She changed her mind once taxes were filed. So at bare minimum she is trying to delay me for some reason.

Thats why I planned far in advance to shore up my finances myself and last week I did just that. Therefore, this week I am in full house hunt mode.

I know she will still be in my life because of the kids. But my contact with her should be minimal because my kids are old enough for me to make plans directly with them.

I honestly feel better than I have in a very long time. Last year I didnt believe I could ever be happy again. Now I am very happy.