180 Counterproductive?

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Weve been together for 11 years, married most of them. No children. The reason I think she wants to work on it is that she's mentioned counseling and has said a few times that she wants to work on it and hopes we can fix us through counseling. Unfortunately, these were just words, and all this was said before we had the weird MC situation where he pretty much just said "give her space, no more sessions from me for now".

I don't want to say too much about the EA, other than she has shut me out and opened up to him. There has been some trickle truth I suppose in the past to get me to bless it, but I know something is up. No doubt in my mind. I doubt it's physical, the guy has too much to lose IMO.

We also have a very storied past. We weathered a LOT of hardship together early on, so much so that we never had a true romance, if you will. I was her rock for a long time. It took its toll on me.