Thanks Nef......went over and saw the Dr. last night for about 1.5. Our schedules are finally aligned again for this weekend so I will see her again Friday, Sat, and Sun. She told me last night I could spend the night at her place but I needed to leave before her son woke up at 6:05. She has him on a tight schedule. I declined as my house is only 2.5 miles away and I sleep much better in my own bed. Nothing against her but I like my sleep. She did send me home with some cupcakes and her cupcakes are really good.
Still learning and getting used to each other. I am realizing that she might be a little insecure as when we were engaging in activities last night she asked me if I liked what I saw. Not a huge issue just an observation. Maybe I dont compliment her enough.
Every human has some level of insecurity. Especially when they are naked. We all like to hear a compliment once in a while. In our most vulnerable state, M will just look at me and tell me how gorgeous I am. And it makes me feel good. And I’m not a horribly insecure person. Maybe a little more lately with some drastic body changes. Who doesn’t like compliments?
She told me last night I could spend the night at her place but I needed to leave before her son woke up at 6:05. She has him on a tight schedule. I declined as my house is only 2.5 miles away and I sleep much better in my own bed. Nothing against her but I like my sleep. She did send me home with some cupcakes and her cupcakes are really good.
You may want to reconsider this the next time IMO. She was offering you a gift of comfort and time and you chose door #2 and cupcakes??? :P
Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
Still learning and getting used to each other. I am realizing that she might be a little insecure as when we were engaging in activities last night she asked me if I liked what I saw. Not a huge issue just an observation. Maybe I dont compliment her enough.
I don't think it's an issue of being complemented enough - just everyday normal insecurity. I personally think that a divorce is for many people a rejection of who the other person is in all ways. And since her marriage was low sex, it's easy to blame yourself for not being attractive enough. I certainly have struggled with this and still do. Oddly, other than the first time we were together, B shows no issues in this way - but she while beautiful in my eyes is no classic beauty. She's middle aged with sags, bonus curves, and some very big scars. I think her biggest concern was that she shaves "everywhere" and once when it came up previously in conversation I'd mentioned that I thought it odd that some guys prefer that. Since it's her choice I just accept it although I was certainly startled. The last time she was over, I had to get up in the middle of the night and turn her bedside light off after she fell asleep as she liked having it on while we were busy. Very different from my ex where everything had to be dark and covered up except the - excuse the pun - bare minimum. Certainly increased my fun level to engage sight as well as the other senses.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
I will text her GM beautiful or stuff like that. I wonder if I need to initiate more than I am if she is starting to get impatient with my level of expressing myself after 3 months. I will be spending the night with her on Friday and Saturday nights along with the day as well. She will get plenty of comfort time with me. I have to work until 8 or 9 tonight and didnt feel like being exhausted the entire day. I know she was offering but she has only spent the night at my place 1 or 2 times in the last 3 months and she doesnt sleep well either.
WTF dude with all the books that you read she has to ask you if you like what you see when she’s naked? That’s 101 material. You let us know she’s smoking hot but you don’t let her know it? You better rewatch Californiacation and get some tips from Hank Moody lol. Come on man you’re better then that!
LOL....well I have said other things (we talk dirty a little bit). Told her she was beautiful, gorgeous, hot, sexy, etc. but I just hadn't done it while we were having sex. I say other things but just not those words. We lay their together afterwards, snuggle, I rub her leg, touch her skin, play with her hair, kiss, snuggle, etc. so it's not like I am void of emotions or feelings.
I saw her this morning at the gym. Texted her afterwards and told her I really enjoyed our couples workout, called her beautiful said her cupcakes were amazing, etc.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
