"Ai agree, I should not have said that. It backfired.She just messaged me that she will move out positively by tomorrow. She said her staying here was not right. Won't say anything out of emotions going forward. Anything I say say for a comeback on this one?"
Duuuuuuuuuude, heres what you need to learn ASAP:
You do dissect conversations in order to get an upper hand, you do not intervene in order to look better in her eyes, you simply do anything and EVERYTHING for you. Get to the point, where you dont care if she likes it or not - if you like it, then its the right thing for you to do...
You are Waaaaaaaay to focused on her point of view, and how you portray yourself to her.. its weak and pursuit behavior, and its pushing her further away..
Heres the deal: the move is happening, and thats what it is. It doesnt mean anything in the bigger picture.. Let her move out, and focus on you, while she focuses on herself... its the only thing that will give you a chance of R in the future.
When that future comes, if you play your cards right, you have two paths to walk down.
1. You are ready for a new adventure with your W
2. You do not want to begin a new adventure with your W, because you have transformed into an individual with desires, goals and needs, that no longer matches the person she is.
Please, drop the rope.
I agree Hurt and thanks a lot for your comments.
Going forward, just focus on myself and detach as much as I can. I think as she is moving out, I should be able to do better at that.
However, as she is leaving today, it's a sinking feeling and nothing seems to be right. Feels like last nail in the coffin. I so want her to be back and have a happy family again. Hope god is listening.
