Keep going strong. No contact is really smart. You need to break your cycle and that’s the only way to do it. The snide remarks are made to get a reaction. Not responding to them is really great. Good job!
He’s telling your daughter (who he knows will tell you) how you should feel???? Who the hell is he? He’s diminishing you and your feelings and he takes no responsibility. He does not deserve to be in your life. He’s really manipulative. You can’t wait for people like this or debate or talk sense into them. You just have to cut them out. They are empty or sociopathic or maybe narcissistic. Doesn’t matter. What matters is you. And what your gonna do to heal. Your life, your feelings are yours not his. Take that back.
He’s also telling your daughter that you are being unfair. That’s horrible. You are being very fair. You are protecting yourself and shutting his sh!t down. What bothers me, is that he’s basically condoning his cheating and lying and betrayal to your daughter. Kids - even adult ones need to know how cheating should not be accepted. You don’t want them marrying or putting up with cheaters. (Cheaters risk lives and health ) . I have a friend whose husband cheated and she left. She has a young, gorgeous, successful daughter who is dating someone that keeps cheating on her. She said her dad did it and she still loves her dad. So if she broke up with him it would be like saying she can’t love her dad.i know the logic makes no sense. But she’s so young and she’s got so much going for her and she’s with a loser that’s gonna bring misery to her life. It’s hard to hear about.
Good luck at graduation. Can you take a supportive friend or family member with you?
