Just a word of advice, I made this exact same post in Sept of last year, 2 months after BD. I was convinced affair was over, thought we were moving in a good direction, etc... People here gave me advice to stop guessing what phase she was in, and that it's normal to think your situation will run course faster than others. Please don't do that to yourself. Anyways, We reconciled and month later and it crashed and burned. Affair was alive and active, just far more secretive. She was "trying to figure it out" while playing both me and the OM. This 2nd BD was much worse than the 1st. You will know when MLC is over. It will take time. Do not reconcile early, it will only bite you.
