Dealing with a WW and getting through divorce 6

[SoTorn]

Had a nice Easter weekend. My new female friend came down and spent the weekend with me. I really really enjoy my time with her. She is extremely nice, extremly honest, very transparent, non-judgemental and non-critical, expects nothing from me beyond being nice and honest and asks me for nothing but my companionship. D16 asked to meet her. Very odd request, but I oblidged and we went to dinner with S12, D16, myself and my new female friend. Everyone got along very well and we had a great dinner.

WW still acting hot and cold and hot and cold. She is spinning in circles still. She goes from being cordial to me, ignoring me, being hateful to me and putting me down and everything in between all within a few days. I am cool, calm and collected. I know my path and I am walking it. Still looking for a home to rent for now. D is pending in the court still.

I am cordial, I validate when I can. Again I will not validate when she is putting me down. I just ask her to stop and leave me alone. Wash, rinse repeat.

Went to my dads house for Easter Sunday. D16 was supposed to drive her and S12 there, but I think that WW thought that my new friend would be with me. My new friend has met my dad already, but she didn't want to go to the Easter event because she felt that WW may show up. I also felt that WW may show up. WW is not welcome by my parents. They are not mean, but they are not happy with her.

As we suspected WW didn't let D16 drive to my dads. WW decided to drop them off and showed up at the exact same time as I did. I feel she was expecting to see my new friend with me.

WW showed up and my brothers were outside hiding eggs. Again, everyone is cordial to her. I asked everyone to just be nice, even if they are upset with her, as there is no point of being mean.

WW hugged my brothers, which was odd for them. I went inside and when I came back outside WW was standing off in the yard crying. D16 asked me to say hi to her. I had already greeted her, but I said "Hi WW, Happy Easter". WW was lost and extremly upset. She was walking back to her car and I asked if she was going to go say hi to everyone. She couldnt decide what to do and was just standing by her car looking lost.

I went inside and told my dad that she was outside and asked if he wanted to say hi. He did not, but he remembered that I had asked that everyone be nice. So he went outside and shortly after everyone else did to hunt eggs. WW saw my dad and hugged him and again broke down and started crying. She hung around for a bit and ended up going to the bathroom for a while and crying.

She finally left. I ended up taking the kids home before going back to the airbnb that I was at. When I went home WW had locked herself in her room and when D16 knocked on her door she said she was sleeping.

WW asked if I would approve passports for D16 and S12 because she wants to take them to Mexico. I am not ok with this because Mexico is on a dangerous travel warning right now. That and my WW is not known for emergency planning or any sort of situational awareness. I told her I would think about it. WW went and told all of the kids that I am just being difficult because I don't want her taking them anywhere.

This is not true. I told her I am sorry if she feels this way and that I am entitled to my opinion on where my kids go and that I will think about it and that it has nothing to do with her and that I would be fine with her taking them anywhere thats not dangerous and not on a government advisory.

WW keeps up with the insulting texts, talking down to me etc. I just validate when I can and ignore when she is insulting. WW made a snide comment about me not moving out yet. I have the money and I am looking, but I was waiting for her to pay me the settlement which she promised. But she changed her mind as to when she wants to pay me. The only reason I can see that she changed her mind is because she is delaying me moving out. There is no other reason.

She doesnt know that I already have enough funds to move out, but she will soon as I am looking at several homes this weekend.

I personally feel great. I still look great, GAL in full effect, relationship with the kids is excellent. Finances are in order. Just need to find a house and rent it and move. I am still debating on whether to sell my car or not. I love my car, but it is not a cheap car. That and its just a car. I can always get another in the future.