Had asked wife to talk about our Ds staying arrangements and her routine during stay at each place (my wife is moving out on Wednesday i.e tomorrow).
She asked if we could meet at a restaurant near our house during lunch hours, to which I agreed. (not sure why she chose to meet outside, even though she has no job these days and was home only, and the restaurant is 5 minutes away from our house)
So we talked about the days she will spend at each place and here is the arrangement:
Sun-Tuesday Morning - D is with me Tue - Friday morning - D will be with my wife Friday - Saturday morning - D will be with me Saturday Morning - Sunday Morning - With wife
We talked about her eating routine and other stuff to keep it same in both houses.
Also, for finance, we agreed that on 1st of each month, I will deposit in her account my share of the daycare+education saving expense for our D. She gave me the cards that she had from our joint accounts. We file taxes jointly and this year we owed money because her withheld taxes were very less and she asked me to tell her how much she owes and she will pay me that.
Also, I asked her to make sure that she leaves by tomorrow unless there are logistic issues because I couldn't live in an open marriage (Although the delay would have been a day or two, this was just to emphasize that she was not leaving on her terms but I wanted her to leave as well. I know it was not the best thing to do, but I wanted peace and send a message that its not just her that wants to leave, but I have no interest if she is going to be with another man). Her face was blank as she did not expect it. May resent me but I was so upset in my heart about my D suffering that i had to say it. Don't know what the repercussions will be.
Would like to have your feedback please and how to conduct myself in coming days.
Also, when she is leaving tomorrow, should I say something or not? If yes, then what should I say?
P.S - Her parents called me yesterday and told me that her mother will be arriving on 26th and they haven't told her. What should I do? Should I tell her or not?
Not sure what happened. but I do not like your schedule. It is too much switching for your D. And there will be Friday nights you need to do something and Saturday night she will. How about this:
Sun-Tuesday Morning - D is with me Tue - Friday morning - D will be with my wife Friday - Sunday Morning - With wife one week, me the next, alternating.
I think that is much better arrangement. Not sure why you guys would try to split the weekend like that.
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P.S - Her parents called me yesterday and told me that her mother will be arriving on 26th and they haven't told her. What should I do? Should I tell her or not?
Call her parents and tell them they need to contact her with their plans.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
