Wife is having an affair and wants to separate

[joejoe1]

Vik,

That statement about you wanting her to leave, was once again you wanting to control the situation. "You had to say something", Trust me, no you didn't! You have some work to do. You want convince us on here that was a good thing to do. It was immature and weak. You probably looked very unattractive and weak to your wife, because it sounds very weak to me.

You won't be able to control your W. I wrote that to you yesterday. Let her be, you trying to get revenge will not do anything to help your situation. Do what's attractive and what works.

Stay out the way of your WW and her family. Stay out way of your WW and her family. If you get in the way and things go sour, but sides will just find ways to blame you. What happen between them is non of your business. Also, if you tell your WW that her parents are coming, she's going to think you put them up to doing this. She will blame you for them coming and trying to fix her. I promise you, it won't be nothing you can say to convince her otherwise.

But, if you stay out the way and if she comes to you and say, did you know my parents were coming and you say yes. And she ask, "why didn't you tell me?" You can say, "I didn't tell you because, what happen between you and your parents, is none on my business". That statement let her know, you aren't getting out of her way.

Get out of her way and let her live her life without you in it. She must view you as a loss.

I know you want your family and W back. But your intervention want be the reason she returns, her seeing a confident man, that has made changes and moving forward with his life, is the biggest chance you have of getting her back.

It have worked time and time again. But what hasn't work since I have been here is when I read about a LBS trying to control their spouses, it always ends badly.