Wife is having an affair and wants to separate

[Hurt213]

You got the schedule in order - Good job, now you have a formal agreement, make sure that is in writing, you will want that.


Finances are sorted, it seems - Good job. Now you don't have to worry about that, make sure that is in writing, you will want that.

You asking her to leave because of bla bla bla is simply you wanting an reaction, and that was not really helping you. Think what you want, but keep it in your head - be a man only a fool would leave, not a man filled with resentment, anger and hatred, thats not attractive.

I am going to say this once, and then leave it be - Stay the heck out of secret agendas with HER side of the family. In time, and most likely already, they will choose their daughters side, no matter what she does, and you will be on the end of the blaming stick....

Tell them that you are not comfortable discussing your private affairs with their daughter at this point in time, and that you would appreciate if they did not reach out with these intentions. You want an absolutely transparent communication with them, because your wife will feel absolutely blind-sided, and guess who will be blamed.

I am not saying to avoid them, they are the grandparents of your daughter. Keep it at that, but your private business with their daughter needs to be your private business for now. It will bite you in the behind if you become part of whatever mess is stirring up.