You are correct to some extent but there comes a point where you have to ask yourself if you deserve to be treated this way.
Your first step should be to get some respect back from your W. Table the half hearted validation for now and let her know that it is rude to text “anybody” while at your house and she cannot come and visit her horse anytime she feels like it. I would also give her a time line to get her horse out of there or start charging board for the horse.
She will fight you on it but she will also respect you for standing up to her.
LH is making an awesome point. The mistake LBSs make, almost every time, is thinking they can nice their WAS back. You cannot. Being nice will have her view you as weak. Manipulable. Spineless.
One way to think about this that has helped some LBSs is this: if you were dating this person, would you tolerate this behavior? Why would your standards be any lower because you' are married to them?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
