Persistent Endurance (Part 3)

[sandi2]

Thanks for your detailed examples of validation. I think one trick is to not basically repeat the same one every time, or sound like a yes man.

H: "That must be very difficult for BFF to deal with. I can understand how her XH sending the letter to the school the next day could seem like a way to get back at her."
W: "Oh, don't be so diplomatic LBH."

Her response was her telling you that she only needed you to listen to her vent. It's not necessary to reply to every time.

I feel I need to be bright and cheery to follow some of your rules and recommendations of other vets when interacting with WW:

Good! One of the most common questions is, "How do I interact with my WW". It is a method of interacting with her.
All these rules are meant to give some direction for the newcomer when they first arrive.

However, sometimes my good feelings go away due to a feeling of overwhelming disgust around her and the absolute selfishness that she demonstrates. This may be similar to how she felt/feels about me prior to BD when she felt emotionally neglected and post BD when I was pursuing and pressuring her. I really need to focus on eliminating these slip ups and remaining positive because I know they are not attractive.

You guys can't figure women out when they are "normal", much less when they turn wayward. You are right about pursuit not being attractive, especially when the other person wants out. You can have a positive mental attitude about yourself, and life in general.....without pressuring those who don't want to be with you. ((hugs))