Any suggestions / advice for how to handle the conversation with OS? I’ve seen some stuff before, but I would appreciate a refresher.
Kids aren't ignorant of these matters, they've been around other kids going through it so it's not a foreign concept to them. The important thing with kids, especially young ones, is A) you make it abundantly clear this is not their fault (it's just a kid thing but they tend to think it's because they did something wrong) and B) that despite this you and W will always be there to love them and support them. A lot of people get tripped up in whether they should "cover" for their cheating spouse in this talk, but the talk should not even remotely be about why the S or D is happening. It should be completely focused on the kids and the impact to them. Ask him if he has any questions. If he does ask questions they will probably be logistical- where he will be living, if he still goes to the same school, etc. So try and be prepared. Ask him how it makes him feel. It will help if both of you are there.
