The sticking point currently is that she feels blocked by me not cooperating to join her in moving out for 50/50 time at home.
That's called a "nesting arrangement" and most of us here are not big fans of it. A couple of people here have tried it due to financial difficulties though. My attitude about that is if you don't want to do it then stick to your guns. Be polite but firm, tell her it's a non-negotiable point and you are not leaving the house. If she wants to leave then that's on her to figure out how to make it work.
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She has been in IC for 18 months (along with her affairs) and we just started CC about 5 months ago.
Glad she is in IC. If CC doesn't go well then consider terminating it. Generally a WAS just goes to CC so they can cross it off their list of "Things I Tried To Save The M But That Just Proved It Was Already Over". In other words they are just looking for excuses to end the M, so if the counselor says something like "well maybe you should separate" then the WAS will jump all over it and say "see, the counselor recommended it so it must be right."
