I’m struggling with how to come off as bright, cheery, and upbeat around the woman that is actively cheating on me.
You need to get to the point where you are bright, cheery and upbeat IN SPITE of her. Let her wallow in the mud, you take the moral high road to happiness.
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I know detachment is the answer, but implementing this during an active A is a challenge.
For most people an A makes detachment easier. Do you really want to be attached to someone that doesn't love you and is actively engaging in an A?
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I need to some help on how to put a smile on my face around her during these occasions.
Don't put a smile on for her sake, but try to get to the point where you are happy and smiling regardless of whether she is there or not. It takes time but you'll get there.
