Thanks so much AnotherStander. Your advice is well received. She believes to some degree in the changes but has overwhelming fear of my past patterns, facial expressions, old reactions, etc. Which I completely understand as I was emotionally and mentally abused growing up. I do NOT for any reason think she should simply get over it OR that forgiveness means one forgets.
The sticking point currently is that she feels blocked by me not cooperating to join her in moving out for 50/50 time at home. We meet with the counselor again tomorrow. She has been in IC for 18 months (along with her affairs) and we just started CC about 5 months ago.
I am planning to stand my ground with not moving out, not that it's not cooperating.
H46 W38 M12 T15 D8,S7,S5
11/12/17 "I don't want to be married like this" A began 7/12/18 Confessed A 10/1/19 EA still happening with 2 4/23/19 "I want a D, but I want to stay until I find a job"
