si, yep, my W was very similar to that as well. If the nesting issue comes up simply say "I will not stand in your way if you want to leave, but I won't support a "nesting" situation." My W had a plan to get a job, get her own place, and get a D. She never followed through. If you want to have the togetherness and wholeness you have to let her waywardness run its course. It could do so soon, or it could take another 18 months or more.
Just keep DBing.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
