Great points that LBS don't/can't see until they are on the other side. The LBS is quick to declare that "happiness comes from within" while they are trying so hard to hold onto the WW for their perceived happiness. The LBS will say "divorce will destroy the children's lives" but when it comes to coparenting they won't coparent in a way that is healthy for the children. Both sides are being selfish yet neither can see the other side.
My ex stayed for a year and a half for the children half heartly trying. Being divorced is 100 times better then being with a spouse that has checked out.
I truly believe that if at BD the LBS truly took the focus off the WW, worked on themselves to become the best version of themselves and made every move with strength the opportunity for recon would be highly probable within 2-5 years.
This rarely happens because the LBS starts spinning out of control and does too much damage as the LBS is on their way out the door.
