bubbs - People change with time. They evolve, while their partner changes too. Circumstances transform in unanticipated ways. But I get what you're saying bubbs. It feels like you were cheated because you believe in your vow more strongly than your partner did, and that's hard to take. However, didn't your vows also include honoring, cherishing, and making your partner happy? Mine did. And that's the dilemma - which supersedes the other. Is her happiness less important than mine. Believe me, I get it. I struggled with this too. I was raised Catholic. A vow is supposed to be a vow. But then I asked myself this question; would I be happy knowing that my partner is miserable? Is that how I express my love for my partner? By capturing her in misery? Shouldn't I let go of an unhappy marriage for the love of other? Do we withhold agency from the ones we love for fear of losing our own happiness? What does 'loving unconditionally' really mean to me?

Last edited by MarcPa; 04/21/19 05:38 AM. Reason: Edited for clarity