IHCLACS, I'm gonna bottom-line it for you. If you want to have a chance at get back with your wife let her have a chance at finding her happiness. Be supportive of that by accepting that you have to let her go. Don't dismiss her feelings, or blame what is happening to her on 'this or that'. Blame will not bring her closer to you. Rather, understand her pain. Respect her as a human being. Work to forgive her, and your self. Validate her feelings. And most importantly, don't make this about you. She doesn't owe you your happiness at the expense of her own. Once you understand this I guarantee that you will find the peace that comes with grace, and you will have a better chance than anything of getting her back.
