Nudge was probably the wrong word. Enable her move out is probably something closer to what I mean. See she wants to move out but just can’t do it - either it’s the rental market is just bad or she doesn’t want to buy a house because she wants all of us to relocate to this new city, summer kid plans with nanny are complicated , etc.
You make a really good point. If I do anything to bring her to her new life it will have strings attached to me, and thus I will to be to blame if the future doesn’t work out.
So am I to let her take the lead and make the first move? She’s waiting for me to take control because that is what she’s relied on me forever to do. I can do that but want to be very cautious here.
