Hi CSL. So sorry you find yourself here and that you have found there is another woman. My advice to you is to take a step back and really consider what it is you want. Do NOT do anything impulsively. Do NOT make it about her. She is not the reason for your marriage issues...she is the symptom. Do not make it about her. I know it is really, really hard but just keep doing what you are doing. GAL and do 180s...for you. If there comes a time when you feel like you want to formalize things (separation or divorce), do it for the right reasons... because you want out and not because you want to punish him or push him to do something. The HARDEST part about all of this is to be patient enough for your sitch to turn around. Most of us are not. Most of us cannot stop ourselves, even with the amazing advice on here, from trying to make something happen fast. It won’t. Anything you do to try to expedite things will only backfire and push him away. You have noticed some changes with LRT so keep it up. What I know is that eventually, the OW will also notice and start putting pressure on him and WS’s HATE pressure. Your H is conflicted. That’s a good thing. Don’t help him with that by trying to force his hand. It will likely not work out in your favour. I know this is excruciating. It will get better with time. Have faith and keep moving forward. (((HUGS)))
