Thanks Hurt. Will try and just leave her alone and not bother myself or her.
About finances, the situation is as follows:
She was paying for our Ds daycare expenses and her car lease. Rest all the house expenses like rent and everything else (insurance, food, all the house bills, phone bills were coming from my salary. When she told me that she will be separating and I was not aware of the affair and AP, I said ok, when you move out, we will distribute the daycare and education fund contribution according to our income ratios (mine was 60% and her came out to be 40%).
In feb she told me that her office ppl had reduced her hours and she would want me to pay my Ds daycare also till the situation gets better and she will pay me back later, to which I agreed. I also contribute towards my Ds education fund. Later in March she lost the job completely and has no income for last month and half. Irony is knowing that she did not have a job, she went ahead and took the apartment on rent (she has some savings available for her to last 6-8 months).
I feel like telling her that moving out was her decision and if she can afford the rent without a job and can take such reckless decision, then she should honor the commitment to sare Ds expenses as well. But on the contrary, I don't want to be vindictive and if I do so, my daughter suffers and I don't want her to suffer because of any conflict between me and my wife. Not sure what would be the best approach here.
