Unfortunately, this is the mantra most of us have heard throughout this process. One important thing to do is figure out what YOU want. She is on a path to self discovery and anyone who gets in its way will be mowed down into oblivion. You have been her must trusted person for quite some time. You will have to quickly adapt to being the blame for all of this and there is no way out. There is no logic or reason, just pure emotion. Avoid emotional talks, the hangover can last for days and any argument will further convince her what she's doing is right. As others have said, giving space, time and being there for the kids will help everyone involved, regardless of the outcome.
