She much more concerned in what her H may have discovered in her text messages, rather than the fact he was leaving to spend the night away from her. Yes, that is a big red flag.
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W: so what is your plan? Me (positive and cheerful): well I’m just packing some clothes for tonight W: where are you staying? Me: I’m not sure yet W: where did you stay last night Me: a hotel nearby W: that sounds like a lot of money, you could just stay on the couch. Me: well I don’t really feel like sleeping on the couch.
This is very typical of the WW. It's about control. She wants to know every move you make. She doesn't want you knowing about her private life, but she wants to know yours. This is when you give vague answers (but don't sound ridiculous).
If an affair is a deal breaker, then don't put up with her sh't. I think LBH's wait too long and put up with too much b.s. before they act on it, thus weakening her view of him as a man. Everything he does should be seen from the point of his self respect.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
