Regret, it's good that you are able to look at all your faults and realize your W has plenty of good reasons to want out of the M. It's great that you're doing 180's on those things but please understand that right now she sees it all as "too little too late" and probably resents your changes and is asking herself "why now, why didn't he do something in the last 2 years when there was still a chance, why did he wait until my heart was closed off to him." And she is right, you should have done it then rather than now. But so should the rest of us. So now you've got to give her TIME and SPACE. No more flowers on the dashboard. No more sweet gestures of any kind because they are PRESSURE and right now she wants ZERO pressure from you. So back off. Leave her alone. Focus on you and S. With time she may start looking back, and when she does you want her to see a new you- healthy, independent, an awesome father, a loving person.
When you apply pressure you push her to divorce. Pressure is anything from relationship talks to gifts to trying to kiss or hug her to telling her you miss her. When you remove all pressure she will put things in neutral, and that gives you time to work on yourself and time for her to start appreciating the "new you".
