Do not validate his feelings or whats happening with OW. Do not validate anything bad he says about you or any put downs he throws your way.

I keep my validation to only specific situations. When the WW is complaining that I did something to make her feel a certain way I just say "I am sorry you feel that way". If she says she is tired I use the same thing "I am sorry". I don't initiate conversation at all with her.

If she says hi and bye I will say it back, otherwise I am a ghost. I have no desire to even be around my WW.

Validation is a very difficult thing for me to master, but I have done a good job thanks to these forums. I just need to make sure I don't validate lies, re-writing history etc.

M:16
T:21
H(me) 38
WW: 38
S11 D16 D19
Red Flags of A: March 2018
ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018
BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
D Filed: March 27, 2019