How do you know this is an EA and not PA? So your H is getting up 2 to 3 hours early each morning just to chat with OW? And you put up with this?? He is a cake-eater extraordinaire! My inclination is to tell you to kick him out, tell him you're not putting up with his crap anymore and you are done with his deplorable behavior. If you can't or don't want him out then at a minimum I would suggest going stone-cold dark on him. Don't do anything with him, don't cook for him, don't do his laundry, don't clean up after him. If he complains then tell him to put on his big boy panties and take care of himself, because clearly he doesn't want you as his W anymore and you sure as hell aren't his maid or mom. He's acting out like a rebellious teen and I'm sure I don't have to tell you what happens when you smile and pretend everything is OK when a teen is acting out. They will RAILROAD you. Same thing with him.
