So, guess its time to put a little effort into my own situation. I try to check in once in a while, but contrary to months ago, I don't really have a need to talk about myself - I am actually just looking to see, if there are any questions that I feel like I have the knowledge to respond to these days - which is really odd, and I can't explain this, but I guess it must be me having dropped the rope and detached.
Yeah that is pretty much that dropping-the-rope feeling!
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I feel empowered by the way I have taken my life into my own hands. I am good looking, I have taken control of my life, I have taken control of my struggles (gym, being social, getting life back on track) and I have accomplished all these things, and I feel so good.
Perfect!
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I am not attracted to the woman I described above, even though we share so much history. I actually said to myself the other day, that "xxxxx as I knew her, died august 2018, I dont know the woman I am looking at" - and I am just at a place in time, where I believe that to be true.
Yes I can relate to this. Although I will say she is now much more like my W from long ago than she has ever been since BD. For a long time she seemed REALLY alien, but in the last year or so she seems much more like her old self. She's still quite different, but not "as" different. I've always read here that MLC can take 5-10 years to recover from, I never thought my XW was MLC but just a WAS. Maybe the long recovery indicates otherwise though, I'm not really sure.
