Not Sure Where This Is Going

[Niall11]

A lot of them say before pre BD, that they felt numb, had a hard time being present, foggy memories of significant events. I think some minds and personalities shut down as a form of self preservation when dealing with continued stress. Most of the patterns I see here with the WAS is complaints of emotional numbness.

Look up anxiety symptom #5 emotional numbness, lightheadedness, and Depersonalization, Derealization, and Disassociation and see if what your W is experiencing, or alludes to experiencing is part of that descriptor.

This sounds very familiar. I will look it up. She said she felt numb and empty for a long time, didn't know who she was.

One of the harder things I've had to do recently was validate and not respond when she accused me of not "allowing" her friends to come to our house. This is the opposite of the truth. I love having people over for dinner, watching a game, whatever. She complained every time. Multiple friends of mine refuse to come back to our house because she wasn't happy about having company and was rude to them. Not once did I ever have any objection to her having friends over to our house.

She also claimed that I made her feel guilty if she went out with a friend (which until recently happened almost never because she was worn out from work and antisocial). And that she was totally cool if I went out to a meeting or met up with friends.

Again, everyone remembers that the opposite is what happened. On the rare occasions when she went out, I generally stayed at home and was happy to relax for a night. When I went out, she texted multiple times asking when I'd be home. Asked me to leave early to bring her food. Complained that the door creaked when I came in. My uncle stayed with us for a while and said that, when I went out in those days, she would stomp around the house very unhappily. So much for her being totally cool with me having separate activities.