Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 8)

[Twofeet]

W still wants to know what my near-future plans are. For someone who has threatened to move out around May 1st, I haven’t seen much in terms of packing / rounding up possessions.

Incredibly, she wants to know if I’m switching jobs, if I would leave the state of CA and take the boys, or leave the state of CA without the boys, or whatever. Unreal. I have told her next to nothing about my near-term plans—the only thing I said in response was “I have no plans on leaving my current position” (which is true, I’m quite happy where I’m at, and will be completing my 5th year of teaching, both in general, and at my current school).

I’m sure there is more, but I can respond as necessary with questions / comments (I really, really don’t feel well today, and am glad that today is a half-day, as well as convo with L this afternoon). Wish me luck for tomorrow!

Bo,

Just tell her your plans are to take care of yourself and your boys, otherwise don't respond to her probing. She keeps bringing up questioning you moving which may be her projecting her wants/desires to move..... who knows what she wants or what she is hiding just keep on your path.

Also, remember this is just mediation its not set in stone. If YOU don't agree with something, if it compromises YOUR values then don't settle. You can negotiate, but capitulation won't win her back or get her on your side. This a big step in fighting for what your future and your boys future will look like post-D. Good Luck. I will say a prayer for you.