I do understand what you're all saying - I do. And I guess it comes across like I'm being really resistant and obstructive and that isn't how I mean to be. But I keep on saying this - and nobody seems to take it into account - he didn't leave me, I wanted him to leave and had been begging him to leave for months before he did. I think it makes a difference to this situation. I'm as much of a WAW as I am a LBS. It just so happened I'm in the marital home and he's not.
I also wonder at how much of what I'm being advised to do now involves dishonesty - pretending I am okay when I am a not, pretending I am not hurt or offended by his behaviour when I am - and if that's the case, how would that help? Is it possible for me to be authentic about what is going on with me without making him responsible for fixing it?
