A couple of nights when packing W mentioned something about us and wanting to try to work it out and that after this, she will want to see a professional for help to sort out her feelings. I said okay. One night, she listed about 10 things she noticed in me and said she wished I was like this before and that it was too late to work on it because I had decided to move on. I didn't say anything. I validated, sometimes being quiet, saying nothing. Other times, I said sorry, I know how hard that must have been for her to deal with things. Once she said I was a better partner, dad, she saw I had a life of my own, I was doing things for myself, with her and the kids, I was balancing my life out and this is who she wanted to be with and she was upset that its happening now and she doesn't have a chance to be with this guy. She was also afraid that this wasn't going to last. I said I can imagine how tough it is to deal with that uncertainty. I told her I know it [censored] to feel like you don't have a partner.
EXCELLENT JOB! Really good stuff there. You didn't get drawn into an R talk, you simply listened and validated. Perfect.
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No pressure about the future. She looked at me and pressed into me. We both continued the slow hot heavy kissing. My hands on the back of her thighs, pressing her into me.
Interesting timing considering she just closed on her house. Hard to say what was going through her head, but I would say she probably is starting to feel "free" and can have sex with you without feeling any relationship pressure. Probably wouldn't have happened the day before because she would worry you'd put the full-court-press on her to stop the sale from going forward and drop everything to work on the M.
Anyway it sounds like you are doing great Adam, keep it up!
